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sackcloth Vs bikini

modesty. now there's a word u don't hear very often these days.
integrity. there's another one.
self-value. dun think that's even a word.. but it is for now.

so i just finished a book called 'Do you think I'm beautiful?' and i've been thinking... what are my own standards when it comes to how i present myself? i mean, i don't exactly want to walk around in a sack-cloth with hair that has never known the purpose of a brush. but i definately don't want to skip around in a skirt that could be used as a belt and enough mascara to pave a car park.

most girls wanna be noticed, adored and loved. but how do they go about it? sure, i could wear more expensive clothes that are skimpier. but let me explain a little something bout myself.

1. i'm asian. therefore i will pay for my money's worth. to pay more for less material is just not logical to me.

2. i don't want to be slutty. now u can wear skimpy clothes and not be 'slutty' but i guess i prefer not to get myself in the situation where i'll be tempted to sell myself short.

3. i want a guy to see me how God sees me. God sees me for who i am on the inside. cliche but true. i believe God finds me beautiful...even in my dorky penguin PJs. id like to believe that i can find a guy who would find me adorable even if im 50 kg heavier and a thousand wrinkles wrinklier.

4. i have God. i don't need guys to whistle at me to feel noticed, adored or loved cuz i get that from God. and its so much purer, more powerful and perfect in every way.

i was shopping with ness on sunday afternoon. we were walking along and this large white figure came our way. what was it? an angel? pop 'n fresh? a chick wearing a white top? yeah. it was the last one. and oooooooh my gosh. did she get attention or what. she was wearing a white top thinner than tissue paper - tight enough to give the support of a bra. i guess that's why she didn't wear one. and for an asian... u just know those things aren't real.

now don't get me wrong. she could have been a really nice girl. but at first site... that's not the kinda message i wanna send about myself. it wasn't appealing. and if its appealing to most guys... then i guess i wouldn't date most guys.

but my point is, i wanna be respected as a girl with integrity. someone who values who she is and doesn't give a care if ppl think she's too 'christian'. it is possible for a girl to have God and have style.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

ahhh frank i heart u...sometimes u need ppl to put stuff like this into writing and u've done just that :)...and as much as its cliche, cliches r good :D

BEST dorky penguin PJs EVER!

Anonymous said...

yes, it is possible for a girl to dress modestly and with style...unfortunately, the normal message that comes through the media is that if you want to have style, you have to wear less...and for me as a guy, that's a big turn-off.

Anonymous said...

Amen, sister! You tell it like it is! :)

It's truly awesome to see you growing into a true woman of God! *hugs*

Anonymous said...

It must be in the DNA of women to want to look beautiful and I think it's our job as Christians to help them realise that they ARE beautiful. I guess it's pretty hard to see the beauty in everyone you meet but that must be something that God wants us to work on. :-)

Anonymous said...

looks only go so far hey, let it be known that a decent man will look beyond the facade and look to the character and inner beauty of the woman.

just get a set of Vanessa's Dorothy the Dinosaur outfit and wear that wherever you go, that should do the trick

fanny dong said...

BEST. DATING. TIP. EVERRRR hehe